I’ve always been impressed, influenced, and profoundly impacted by my wife’s faith. It’s a quiet faith. It’s full of the wisdom many seek. I’ve been fortunate enough to be married to her for the last thirteen years. My faith, however, was an emotional roller coaster for her.
In our early years I was super excited for God – on fire as they say. However, when I went to college my faith was shattered. I became an atheist. This was an extremely difficult time for her. She wanted to be with someone who shared the same outlook. Who wouldn’t? I took a trajectory that took me (and her) to the depths of despair. All she could do was watch, pray, and counter my scholarly arguments as best she could.
When I started to come around it wasn’t instant. It was years. I struggled, battled, and fought God every step of the way. He won. Thank God. But my wife was alone in her faith for many years. She did not know if I would come around. And I was not there to share and grow along side her. But she held firm – despite my intensity, passion, and intellectual arguments – thank God.
Her quiet faith was a powerful force that led me back to God. She sanctified me. The apostle Paul says, For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife. Sanctify means to make holy or sacred. My connection and commitment to my wife, despite my unholy thinking and behavior, made me holy.
Her demeanor, faith, kindness, love, generosity, honesty and commitment helped crack my hardened heart.
My wife exemplified Paul’s words:
Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them.
Thank God she did.
Thanks for reading,
~ Ted Olson