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The Life Sucking Power of Anger

If you want to know how to be happy, getting rid of anger is a really, really, good start. However, removing anger is really, really, hard. First, because, some anger is good. If we see an injustice, it’s “just” to be angry. But this isn’t the anger that sucks the life out of us. It’s the anger with “will,” and “intent,” that leads to misery.

Anger is deadly. It sucks the life out of us and everyone exposed to the anger. We’ve all experienced it, and have the physical and emotional scars for proof. I still remember when my dad kicked me “up” the stairs. I didn’t think it was actually possible, but I was airborne for a few moments. I have had too many explosive outbursts with my own kids. My oldest repeatedly recalls when I dragged him “down” the stairs.

The physical side of anger is devastating, but it gets worse. Anger can lead to a total uncaring. Nothing matters. The Urban Dictionary describes uncaring best in the modern day vernacular: a trait or quality of not giving a fv(k. Anything goes when there is no caring. The object or direction of our anger is not deemed as important. Useless. No value.

At this anger point, we’re useless. Our attitude of “fv(k it” makes us down right dangerous.

To be happy, we have to unlearn the cultural expressions of anger and see them as a path of destruction. The might is right, tit for tat attitude that it so prevalent (and praised) in sports, TV, children’s books, advertisements, political agenda, has to be seen for what it really is – poison. It poisons our happiness and destroys lives.

It certainly does for me. What about you?

Thanks for reading,

~ Ted Olson


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  1. Hi Ted!

    This is a great post on anger. I think oftentimes our sense of justice is twisted, so that we feel that our anger is a righteous and just anger, when really it is only self-serving. In the past, when my children have done things that they know are wrong, I have felt that if I don’t punish them for it, that I am letting them off the hook, and that justice is not being served. However, I have learned that much of this comes not from a desire to see justice served, but from a desire to vent my anger because I am hurt.

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