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How You Can Be Happy – Be Girly

One thing I’ve always admired about women is they’re not men. They think differently. There is more focus on relationships, building community, and family. There is a mindset of grace, rather than “right.” Unfortunately, this is changing…

It’s changing because some women are choosing to follow the might-is-right domination system built, monitored, and maintained by men. Here’s a quote to put this in context. It comes from actress Dame Judi Dench. She notes:

One of the benefits of being a mature, well-educated woman is that you are not afraid of expletives. And you have no fear to put a fool in his place. That’s the power of language and experience. You learn a lot from Shakespeare.

This popular Facebook post is well liked. But what is it that people like? What are people reinforcing? They’re reinforcing a domination system – the same one that plays out in all our conflicts around the world – domestic, international, and otherwise.

This is not a rant to pit women against men. It’s a suggestion to follow a more powerful power – Grace.

Domination is not power. It’s fear. Real power is grace. Grace maintains another person’s dignity. Someone full of grace is not concerned about their ego, but the greater good. It’s not a head-to-head fight. Rather it’s an understanding of the heart and a deep love for people on their journey.

Might-is-right says you idiot

Grace asks how can I help?

The latter is seen as weakness, especially when we’re inundated with the media-driven domination structure. Keep your eye out for this influence. It’s everywhere.

How can you be happy? Be more like a women. Turn back to people, relationships, kindness, understanding, compassion, empathy. A personal relationship with God puts this in true perspective. An all powerful being asks how can I help?

Thanks for reading,
~ Ted Olson


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  1. Wonderful, I used to have “how can i help?’ posted on the fridge….grace is a beautiful vibration

  2. ulfried says:

    I am soo enjoying these bloggs, Ted! You just nail it so well, and the topic is so extremely relevant to the world we live in – I am in Namibia, Southern Africa. I see so much of this wherever I go – a society dominated by political thinking & loyalties. Room for a lot of grace!

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